The common theme is a fear that ones talent doesnt match up to ones ambitions.
He knows she wants more and that she willhaveto become more to keep the brand afloat after hes gone.
Being told no is like being told I dont exist.

Credit: Ray Mickshaw/FX
That line should be tattooed on his forehead Cunanan wants power and relevance.
He wants every door open for him.
He wants to exist.
Either theres money in your wallet, or there isnt, the man says.
Money is harder to lie about than a PhD, Andrew realizes.
She is Cunanans perfect, willing audience.
Cunanan can lie, he can pretend to be Portuguese, but the woman says she cant sell him.
And so Cunanan will sell himself.
When Norman meets Cunanan, hes a young, charming theater lover with a Portuguese last name.
So what if he ends up staying overnight with one of Normans friends?
He achieved what he wanted: a stipend and an expense account.
His mother pleads to come with him until Cunanan shoves her into a wall.
The doctor reports that her shoulder blade was fractured.
She tells the doctor it was an accident.
Donatella sheepishly suggests a second dress, and Gianni is furious.
He snips off the harness.
Is it normal enough?
But their fight ends with mysterious, panicked hearing loss.
Gianni has ear cancer.
The killer sees Cunanan.
He tried to kiss me!
I know, Cunanan answers comfortably.
And Cunanan learns something: People kill gay men, and no one cares.
The police caught him, but if that old man was trying to kiss him, who blames him?
He reunites with Norman, honoring Lincolns memory.
(Cunanans version of the story is, predictably, more dramatic.)
The episode ends with Cunanan standing on the balcony of the new house he had Norman buy.
If they could see me now, Cunanan sighs.