I also never saw myself spending years of my life taking care of one.

But Ive done both.

Love was the reason for the first.

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Alzheimers disease, the second.

She was an experienced speech pathologist, and his character in the film was deaf.

He showed up at my office one day in search of my professional advice.

We formed a powerful bond, she continued.

After Gildas death, Gene sought me out again.

Over time, however, her husbands health deteriorated.

I watched his disintegration each moment of each day for six years, she wrote.

(Hedied in August 2016.)

In our case, I was that person.

Neither my love, nor science, could save my husbands life, Karen Wilder wrote.

ReadKaren Wilders full essayat ABC News, and watch a video from the Pure Imagination Project above.